We are living in an instant world where we value things which make us feel good and can have them now. Society encourages people to find short term fixes by engaging in retail therapy, enjoying food and alcohol, buying the latest gadget, using drugs or closing off to the world to escape psychological and emotional challenges. These ways of living cost financially and in health.
We are not good at entering into something like counselling where we don’t always see immediate results or feel good about our situation straight away. However, more and more people are investing in counselling and value the change it brings as they learn new ways to think and behave. This results in improved well-being.
What is Counselling?
Counselling gives you the opportunity to talk with a trained professional who can assist you to see things more clearly, possibly from a different view-point. This can enable the client to focus on feelings, experiences or behaviour, with a goal to facilitating positive change.
Counselling is designed to give you the time, space and encouragement to explore and understand the issues you bring. While counselling is not a magic or an instant cure, it can clarify problems and help in their resolution.
The role of a counsellor is to provide you with a secure framework in which to reflect upon your circumstances. The aim is, that in time this will increase your awareness of yourself, your situation, and the choices that are open to you. It will also provide structure and support for you in painful and difficult times.
Counselling can help you to focus on and understand more clearly issues that concern you. By respecting your values, choices and lifestyle, the counsellor can work together with you towards making choices or changes that are right for you.
The main steps in the counselling process are:
- To help clarify the problem
- To identify options open to you in the situation
- To work out what you hope to achieve
- Identify ways to achieve this goal
- Provide support and encouragement as you work towards your goal
Counselling is Not:
- Giving advice
- Attempting to sort out the problems of the client.
- Expecting or encouraging a client to behave in a way in which the counsellor may have behaved when confronted with a similar problem in their own life.
- Getting emotionally involved with the client.
- Looking at a client's problems from your own perspective, based on your own value system.